The Mother's Day weekend began early this year. On Thursday afternoon, after wheeling Cody into the house from his school bus ride home I noticed a gift bag hanging on the side of his chair. I had a heads up because his teacher had texted me earlier in the day that they were working on Mother's Day gifts in class. I held up the gift bag decorated with stickers and asked if it was for me. Cody got extremely excited. I asked him if he wanted me to open the gift even though Mother's Day was days away. I held up one hand for "yes" and the other for "no." Cody was so enthusiastic when he selected yes he was rocking in his chair. I first opened the card that read Happy Mother's Day on it and he laughed. I then had him help me pull the tissue paper out of the gift bag that revealed a picture of him on an easel. The pure joy Cody displayed in giving this gift was unlike I had ever seen. His pure joy in giving the present is my favorite part of his gift. I may or may not have teared up.
From the time I was very young and even before I received my first beloved "baby alive" doll, I had it in my heart of hearts to be a mother one day. It's been 24 years since I celebrated my first mother's day with Hannah. This is my 17th year celebrating with Cody as well.
If I had seen into our future what my motherhood role would look like I would have had a great deal of trepidation. This is not the conventional ideal I had envisioned. Those early days were filled with uncertainty of Cody's survival, then developmental delays, a diagnosis followed, therapies, surgery, his pain, seizures, ER visits, balancing motherhood duties and often being concerned of the time/energy/resources required with one child over the other. I'm grateful I never had that glimpse into the future because it would not have shown the whole picture. Both of my kids (now one is an adult) are a perfect addition to our family.
No one lives out a complete "conventional" picture of what they envisioned for motherhood/parenthood. Those glossy pics in the parenting magazines I read when I was first pregnant with Hannah weren't completely accurate. Motherhood for any child (typically developing or not) includes both the beautiful aspects as well as challenges for each unique child. I often say that parenting is not for wimps. I think that would make a great t-shirt. All children have "special needs".
I wish all of you moms a wonderful Mother's Day every day of the year!!
|One of my greatest gifts from one of my greatest gifts.|